Do you leave the milonga feeling dissatisfied?
Would you like to dance more? Or with other partners?
When it comes to choosing partners, do you feel powerless?
Do you feel that the milonga is a man's world?
Well, I'll let you into a little secret:
Women can be very influential in this situation, if they play their cards right. Here are a few handy tips:
If you want to dance ...
DO
... look like you want to dance when the new tanda starts
... look at prospective partners, so they know you are interested in dancing with them (cabeceo). You could smile, too
... make an extra effort and invite a friend to the milonga to improve the gender-balance (rather than relying solely on men who came alone or with their own partners)
DON'T
... approach potential partners directly (rather than looking). They may not want to dance with you or to that music. And did you realise that many ladies become annoyed with this behaviour, and see it as a form of queue-jumping or partner-poaching?
... spend precious time checking messages, etc. on your phone
... remain engrossed in a conversation when the music starts, and later complain that you didn't dance much!
Follow these tips consistently, be patient, and things will improve! You may not get to dance with everyone you'd like to (most men don't, either), but your milonga satisfaction will certainly grow.
PP
Completely agree
ReplyDeleteThanks, Steve. Looks like you've noticed some of these behaviours, too.
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