Sunday 27 April 2014
Diaries from BsAs #1 - The price of honesty
From her:
During recent visits to Buenos Aires, I’d noticed him appearing at milongas, tall and usually clad in a suit. He’d dance with a few ladies, then disappear again into the night. His style of dancing impressed me and it looked like his partners enjoyed the experience, but I’d never been able to catch his eye.
Then on our first night back in BsAs, he looked my way and we danced a tanda of tango (Calo, if memory serves me correctly). Later, we also enjoyed a tanda of milonga together. After three hours that night, I decided to leave the milonga. Jet-lag had been playing havoc with my body-clock. I needed some dinner, which I mentioned when he asked why I was leaving so early. I should have seen it coming, but I’ll blame the jet-lag.
He, of course, asked me to join him for dinner.
What I said: I breezily declined the offer, saying I was dining with my partner.
What I should have said: “Thankyou, but I’m very tired after the long journey. I enjoyed our dances. Hope to see you again at another milonga."
Well, I saw him again at several milongas thereafter. Did he even glance my way? Of course not! I suppose I’d injured his pride with the direct refusal.
Moral of the story: Keep ‘em guessing gals!
PP
Update (1 May): Looks like I've been forgiven, as he's invited me to dance at a couple of milongas since my initial faux pas. But things appear to have changed. He seems to be exhibiting some interesting bits of territorial behaviour since establishing the identity of my partner .... but not winning!
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