Advice to tangueras

In a previous post I praised the tangueras who are patient and taking a long-term view of tango, as a way of cultivating a strong pool of male dancers in their community. Remembering, of course, that the ladies also have to work hard on their own skills, too, so that the dance will be mutually enjoyable.

As well as those all important techniques to develop, tangueras have so many other things things on their minds, such as How to get more dances at a milonga; What is their role in a dance which appears to be male-dominated; and dare I say it, What to wear?

Tangocherie and Maleva share their thoughts, often quite humorously, on these and other tango topics. So why should I reinvent the wheel, when their advice is gold? Thanks Keith Elshaw, for your thoughts, too!

The lady's role is a significant one in what appears to be a male-dominated dance:

• Really listening to the music is just as important for the lady
  
• Back-leading vs follower's voice - it can be a 50/50 partnership
  
• More milonga etiquette
  
• The cabeceo allows the lady to decline an invitation before it even happens. And no, it's not the man's God-given right to dance with you, if you don't feel like it, & vice versa.
  
• Boundaries and the dreaded flip-up - amusing, but true
  

There are certainly some effective ways to present yourself at a milonga, and there are some others which I would not recommend. Take a look:

• No te lo pongas or What not to wear
  
• How to present yourself at a milonga
• Learning by looking - applies to men, too!
  
• How can I get more dances at a milonga?

What do you think?
Feel free to share any favourite links on these topics.

Pat